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中文論文名稱 外遇關係修復之歷程探究—伴侶治療師視角
英文論文名稱 The Experience of Extramarital Affairs In Couple Therapy:Therapist's Perspective
校院名稱 淡江大學
系所名稱(中) 教育心理與諮商研究所碩士班
系所名稱(英) Graduate Institute of Educational Psychology and Counseling
學年度 109
學期 1
出版年 110
研究生中文姓名 杜珝萌
研究生英文姓名 Shiu-Meng Tu
學號 606690179
學位類別 碩士
語文別 中文
口試日期 2021-01-08
論文頁數 102頁
口試委員 指導教授-張貴傑
委員-宋鴻燕
委員-藍挹丰
中文關鍵字 外遇  伴侶治療 
英文關鍵字 Extramarital Affairs  Couple Therapy 
學科別分類 學科別社會科學教育學
中文摘要 本研究旨在探討伴侶治療師如何協助外遇議題之伴侶進行修復,藉由伴侶治療師的視角,瞭解伴侶治療師如何看待關係及外遇事件,同時探討治療師如何看待修復。本研究採用質性研究,招募三位來自社區心理諮商中心的心理師,資料蒐集採用半結構式訪談方式進行,並以紮根理論進行整理與分析。
研究結果可分為四個部分,逐一呈現如下:一、外遇不但是關係互動不良的結果,還是更多因素交疊下所產生的,包含了個人內在系統、原生家庭影響甚至上一代,無法單一化解釋外遇的原因;二、在治療過程中,伴侶重新看見對自己生命的期待,無論決定離婚或繼續婚姻都是種修復,同時,修復也包含了個人與過去經驗的和解;三、治療架構是按照治療師的訓練取向擬定,對所需要的資料進行蒐集,依照資料進行伴侶的概念化,同時擬定治療架構,而概念化及治療架構會依照伴侶當下的情況以及蒐集到的新資料而有所變化;四、治療歷程會持續受到(一)治療現場、(二)伴侶治療師(三)伴侶雙方的個人內在系統、(四)伴侶之間的關係,四個向度的影響,且在整個治療過程中四個向度會不斷交織,形成治療的動態歷程,在此動態歷程的交互下,治療成效逐漸出現。
最後,根據上述研究與發現,對於伴侶治療、外遇及未來研究,提出若干建議,作為學術研究及助人工作的參考。
英文摘要 The aims of this study is investigating how couple therapists to assist couple who experienced affairs, and to understand couple therapists’ perspective of affairs, relationship, and repair. In this study, three couple therapists are from community fields who have been working long-term with couple experienced affairs. The study design adopts qualitative research methods, and used semi-structured individual interviews to collect,organize and analyze data inductively base on the theme. Four findings are as follows:
First, an affair is not only a result of the interaction of a relationship, but also caused by many factors, including the personal internal system and the influence from the original family and the previous generation. The occurrence of an affair cannot be explained by a single way; Second, it’s essential for the process of healing that the couple can resee their expectations for their own life, no matter whether they decide to divorce or continue the marriage. In addition, healing also includes the reconciliation between an individual and his/her past experience; Third, the treatment framework is according to the training orientation of the therapist. When the information is collected, the couple is conceptualized according to the data. The conceptualization and treatment framework will be based on the couple's current situation and the new information; Fourth, the treatment process will be continually affected by four dimensions, which includes (1) therapeutic field, (2) couple therapist, (3) the personal internal system of couple, and (4) the relationship between the couple. Under the interaction of the dynamic, which is influenced by the four dimensions mentioned above, the therapeutic effect gradually appears.
Base on the results, suggestions are given as a reference for practical workers and future researchers.
論文目次 第壹章 緒論 ......................................................................... 01
第一節 研究背景與動機 ........................................................01
第二節 研究目的 ...................................................................03
第三節 名詞釋義 ...................................................................04

第貳章 文獻探討 ...................................................................05
第一節 理解外遇 ...................................................................05
第二節 外遇帶來的影響 ........................................................11
第三節 外遇研究的知識缺口 .................................................16
第四節 何謂伴侶治療 ............................................................19
第五節 伴侶治療與外遇 .........................................................21

第參章 研究方法 .................................................................. 26
第一節 研究取向與方法 ........................................................26
第二節 研究流程 ...................................................................28
第三節 研究對象 ...................................................................31
第四節 研究工具與資料搜集 .................................................32
第五節 資料分析 ...................................................................34
第六節 研究倫理 ...................................................................39
第七節 信度檢核 ...................................................................40

第肆章 研究結果與發現 ........................................................42
第一節 伴侶治療師的訪談背景..............................................42
第二節 伴侶治療師對外遇的觀點...........................................44
第三節 伴侶治療師對外遇伴侶的處遇....................................51
第四節 綜合討論 ...................................................................75

第伍章 討論與建議 ...............................................................80
第一節 研究結果與討論 ........................................................80
第二節 研究限制與建議 ........................................................87
第三節 研究者的反思............................................................89

參考文獻...............................................................................91
中文部分...............................................................................91
英文部分...............................................................................94

附錄
附錄一 研究邀請函 ...............................................................99
附錄二 訪談同意..................................................................100
附錄三 初擬訪談大綱...........................................................101
附錄四 正式訪談大綱...........................................................102

表目錄
表3-2-1 研究參與者訪談資料 ...............................................30
表3-3-1 研究參與者基本資料 ...............................................31
表3-5-1 逐字稿編號方式範例表 ...........................................35
表3-5-2 意義與概念範例 ......................................................35
表3-5-3 開放性編碼範例 ......................................................37
表3-5-4 主軸編碼範例 ..........................................................38

圖目錄
圖3-2-1 研究流程圖...............................................................28
圖5-1-1 治療歷程圖...............................................................85
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